Our Domestic Discipline agreement is set to expire July 1, we will then review, renew and expand it to include new rules and regulations we both mutually agree on. Sir has reserved the last weekend in June for a little getaway at a cabin away from all our daily distractions and obligations where we will focus on our commitment to marriage and the lifestyle we chose. I am really excited about this, I have some requests I do hope he is in agreement with.
In reflection of the life we live 24/7 in todays world, I’ve come to relish it as a stay at home wife with no regrets to leave the hustle and bustle of the corporate world behind. I am happier now than what the worldly environment of a large office ever offered me. I do not miss the deadlines, the cattiness of my former co-workers, the ass-kissing, the late night and weekend hours that were never acknowledged or appreciated, the lack of time for myself and my family. Do I miss the paycheck, sometimes, giving up my financial income and control was by far the hardest thing I had to do. In retrospect I’ve had to make some lifestyle changes, I gave up the gym and studio membership, there is no reason I cannot exercise with the fitness equipment I had previously purchased and now actually use. There is no longer designer clothes and accessories, and no spur of the moment frivolous purchases. I’ve come to realize I don’t need any of those things, it was nothing more than a statement I foolishly felt the need to make to keep up with those in the outside world. They were nothing more than material things that in the end were useless and really unnecessary. Did I really need a Designer pocketbook and matching wallet that cost nearly $2,000. Did I need so many shoes that cost hundreds of dollars to match my various outfits? The answer is no! I have a much more worthy and meaningful job today, it is to take care of Sir and his needs in addition to our household and family. I now live on a budget, necessities are not materialistic wants.
In compliance to my choice of living a 1950’s housewife lifestyle, I now do all the housework and it is my job to keep a clean home. I cook and bake from scratch. Before we wasted much money on take out and dining. I buy fresh veggies and fruit and try to buy organic at all possible times, nothing cooked is from a box or can. Sir says I was born in the wrong era and I tend to agree. I hand wash our dishes, we do not own a dishwasher. While we own a washer, we do not own a dryer. I hang all our clothes to dry, I iron the wrinkles out of the clothing, these are just some of the sacrifices I have made to save on expenses. If any of the heavier items need to be dried, such as winter blankets and comforters, I bring to our complex laundry facility. I have a chore list that must be followed daily, some weekly such as mopping floors and changing bedding. I do all the shopping and make a list of what is needed so we do not run out of food or household supplies, we only purchase what is needed and waste nothing. I have become very ingenious making groceries last, Now more Roasts are an added staple to the menu to create additional meals and lunches. TV and Computers are nothing more than a luxury in my home, they are not permitted during the day hours unless all chores and errands are complete. Most blogging is done in the evenings, with the exception of my Monday Morning Reflection as part of my submission and preparation for the upcoming week. You can refer to this previous post My Monday Motivation.
Now to the addition of Kink, we practice a Loving Domestic Discipline (LDD) relationship. I am submissive to Sir in all things sexually or otherwise, he is the authority in our home and Head of Household (HOH). I place my trust and respect in Sir that he will administer the guidance and structure of my submission to him. I accept Sir’s punishment as he sees fit when I am not in compliance per our written agreement. It can be any form of reasonable discipline that can be implemented when it is appropriately used to achieve and correct the effective results of my transgressions. I accept a weekly maintenance spanking without argument to maintain the dynamic of our relationship. I’ve thought about discussing with Sir adding additional maintenance to the week, I notice my demeanor changes rather quickly without focus.
I now dress to Sir’s expectation and pleasure, most days my dress apparel while home is nothing at all. I never wear a bra or panty unless specifically given permission. When in the presence of children, family, vanilla friends, and/or professional visits permission is not a requirement, I will always dress modestly and respectfully. I am permitted to wear a sexy nightwear chemise, no undergarments, when windows are open and the view in our home is open to the outside world to cover myself. While outdoors, my personal dress code is to always wear a dress/skirt unless pants are required for weather or recreational purposes. I dress this way so Sir has access to me sexually at all times. I do not refuse or neglect him at any time his sexual needs while home. In public, it will be discreetly not to be seen by others or unlawful under any circumstance.
I greet Sir at the front door whenever he returns home from his work day, or a day of his recreational activities with friends. I prepare myself for his arrival, pour him a glass of wine, prepare a hot meal, or make myself available for whatever needs he may request. That could be anything from running a hot shower, taking his shoes off, listening about his day, or a sexual pleasure. It is significant to me to have Sir arrive home to a stress free welcoming environment, he works hard providing for us.
Any of my outside social engagements I have with friends, such as the occasional luncheons or going to the beach, they are to be approved by Sir in advance. He never has denied me this as long as all my household responsibilities are completed before I leave the house. We both recognize the need for socialization outside of our relationship to keep us grounded. Sir always knows my whereabouts at all times for safety reasons, I enable my Bluetooth on my cellphone in the possibility of an emergency. Unless medically necessary, all my doctor visits are scheduled during the day, not to interrupt our nightly schedule and routine.
There are many aspects to my service/submission to Sir that I cannot possibly get onto one page. Sir provides me with financial stability, a home, structure, guidance, authority, love and security. I follow the conditions, rules and consequences set forth per our agreement. I can terminate our agreement at any time, but in all honestly I have no desire to do so. This lifestyle we have embraced has strengthened and become an essential part of our marital relationship.